What can you do when you hate how you look and are too unattractive to date?

Dolkite asked:


I am 32 years old, been bald for more than 10 years (pathetic, I know). I am six-foot-three and about 250 lbs. I hate the way people see me…even if females see me in a positive light, I feel terrible because I dont want to be seen as a big bald guy. I dont care if being bald is “in” or if little guys wish they were bigger. I just dont like the girls I attract, which are invariably needy, insecure, and desirous of some big guy to offset them, which makes me feel even worse since I dont want a girl who notices my size or sees it as a way for her to feel tiny.

My brother, meanwhile, is only six feet tall, has all his hair, and nobody ever asks him stupid questions about if he played football or other sports. I hate that I ended up with all the worst genes…the hair loss, the height, the broad shoulders, etc.

People try to placate me by listing big bald celebrities, but that only makes things worse. I don’t want to be compared to oafish types like Vin Diesel or Michael Chiklis or some dumb athlete. I just want to find a way to change how I look. I know I can lose some weight, but I don’t know how I can hide my height, build (broad shoulders don’t just go away), and baldness.

It’s not that people say I look bad….this is what’s so hard for people to understand. Most people are so desperate for acceptance that they gladly chuck their own opinion if someone tells them they are OK. I know big bald guys get girls too…..but I dont want a girl who wants some uber-masculine sort of guy, someone to protect her. I don’t know any big bald guys I think look good…I sure wouldn’t want to be compared to Vin Diesel or Bruce Willis or Michael Chiklis.

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