Dolkite asked: I’m 6′3″, around 235, broad shouldered, and bald. I’m not happy being this way, but there isn’t that much I can do, really. Obviously, I can’t change my height and even extreme weight loss (I had initially planned on losing 100 lbs in a desperate effort to reduce my chest and shoulders) isn’t going to change my basic structure. I spent thousands of dollars on hair transplants several years ago and while I still have them, they gave me some thinning hair in front with a bald spot in back. I don’t particularly like having to shave my head bald, regardless of the trendiness of it (guys like Vin Diesel and Michael Chiklis strike me as big oafish types, not anyone I’d ever want to emulate), but it’s really my only viable option.
Due to my height, size, and probably my baldness, I tend to be pegged as a protector by females (a label I hate because the idea of a female needing to feel small and secure turns me off) and as some football player type by guys (mostly by panhandlers who figure that it’ll play up to my vanity). I don’t mean to imply that I get a lot of compliments or attention, but if I do, the above remarks are generally what I hear.
I know there’s only so much I can do, really. I’ve tried looking around at other guys with similar stature and lack of hair, but I’m at a loss since most of the ones I see are older men (Sean Connery, Patrick Stewart), oafish action-hero types (Diesel, Chiklis), or bulletheaded authority figures (Steve Wilkos, who I have been mistaken for once or twice)….not really the sort of people I want to be associated with. Still, I know all I can do is work with what I have, but I want to know if people have an opinion as to what I can do to stay away from this stereotype I’ve been subjected to.
By the way, PLEASE read my question and don’t just give me an opinion of my picture. I know my question is lengthy, but I wanted to make sure I detailed what I was asking.

neutron – Thanks for not reading my question and giving me a blowoff answer. “Don’t worry about it” is about the laziest excuse for an answer I can think of, and I already mentioned that I shave my head because I have no other choice.
I repeat, PLEASE READ MY QUESTION. I’m not asking whether I look good, or whether bald men are attractive….it’s nice to hear people say nice things about me or my pic (I’m starting to regret posting it since I’m guessing most people simply looked at the pic and decided not to read the text), but what I’m asking is how can I avoid the standard big tough bald bruiser/bouncer stereotype?
And also, please don’t tell me to focus on my “inner beauty” or about having a great personality. Whether we like it or not, looks do matter, and we’re all judged by them whether it’s “fair” or not.
Zoinks – Yes, you DID just blow my mind…because your answer proved that you didn’t bother to read my question.
1) Anyone who believes that everyone who makes judgments based on appearance is shallow is pretty naive.
2) I spent three paragraphs detailing how I didn’t want to be seen as some big meathead, then you prescribed that I attempt to cultivate that very image.
3) I reject answers when I find them simpleminded, unhelpful, and proof that people didn’t bother to read my question thoroughly.
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