I am too ugly to date?
I am 32 years old, been bald for more than 10 years (pathetic, I know). I am six-foot-two and about 255 lbs. I hate the way people see me…even if females see me in a positive light, I feel terrible because I dont want to be seen as a big bald guy. I dont care if being bald is “in” or if little guys wish they were bigger. I just dont like the girls I attract, which are invariably needy, insecure, and desirous of some big guy to offset them, which makes me feel even worse since I dont want a girl who notices my size or sees it as a way for her to feel tiny.
My brother, meanwhile, is only six feet tall, has all his hair, and nobody ever asks him stupid questions about if he played football or other sports. I hate that I ended up with all the worst genes…the hair loss, the height, the broad shoulders, etc.
People try to placate me by listing big bald celebrities, but that only makes things worse. I don’t want to be compared to oafish types like Vin Diesel or Michael Chiklis or some dumb athlete. I just want to find a way to change how I look. I know I can lose some weight, but I don’t know how I can hide my height, build (broad shoulders don’t just go away), and baldness.
It’s not that people say I look bad….this is what’s so hard for people to understand. Most people are so desperate for acceptance that they gladly chuck their own opinion if someone tells them they are OK. I know big bald guys get girls too…..but I dont want a girl who wants some uber-masculine sort of guy, someone to protect her. I don’t know any big bald guys I think look good…I sure wouldn’t want to be compared to Vin Diesel or Bruce Willis or Michael Chiklis.
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Personality is overrated. Most people – men and women – care about looks.
Taylor – So if I dont want a girl who wants to feel protected, you are completely nonplussed? Is it that essential to you?
21 – I think you are exaggerating. I am guessing you have never dated a really hot guy who was obnoxious…so your theory has never really been tested.
taylor – what i want is a female who doesnt need to feel protected, who doesnt want some big teddy bear for a boyfriend, and who is not impressed by some big broad shouldered oaf…and probably someone who doesnt have to settle for a bald guy.
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May 11th, 2010 at 4:13 am
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You have a opossum!!!!!????? crazy!!
May 11th, 2010 at 10:51 pm
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I’ll admit I didn’t read all of that but I looked at the pictures and you’re not as ugly as you say. Not the best-looking, but you just have to have the right personality, I think that’d reel in the most amount of girls.
May 14th, 2010 at 5:19 am
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I think you look HOT! Really being bald is actually a turn on to alot of girls (including me)…just be happy with yourself. I have things about myself that im not happy with but I don’t let that get in the way of being who I am…Im 6’2 also by the way lol which I hated a long time but now I love it…I learned to like it and I really do now.
Good luck and don’t be so hard on yourself
Oh boy oh boy! You are so wrong about the personality thing…that is one of the most important things! at least to me…I would never date a hot guy who was an azz hole! I look for personality first and looks come second. that dosen’t mean that i’ll date someone ugly but if they have a great personality, that goes a long way!
May 16th, 2010 at 11:50 pm
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I looked at a few of your other questions, and you keep saying that you don’t want girls to seek protection from you, right? Well, what DO you want from a girl?
No, I’m not saying that at all. I meant that you should think about what you do want, and look for someone like that.
Personally I don’t need protection. I just want someone I can be myself with, laugh with, be happy with.
You should focus on what you DO want. Then look for people like that.
Okay. You keep saying things you don’t want. Do you want a girl who is silly, witty, adventurous?
May 18th, 2010 at 2:35 pm
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” You are not too ugly to date ”
If you asked me personally, I would not date you. Not cause you’re bald, tall (in fact i think you’re not “that” tall, you’re just average-tall) or have broad shoulders. I just don’t like details on your face, you’re too white oh and the fact that you don’t want to be compared to Vin Diesel
It’s personal taste you know.
I believe you really have an issue with your self esteem or something that’s why you did take time to type all this for us to judge. But you can’t expect people to give the answer(s) you want to hear or the one & only satisfying truth cause it doesn’t exist bro!
Gd luck anyway, although I don’t think you need it
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May 21st, 2010 at 4:13 am
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you know you have it going on. be happy,