How can I change the way people perceive me?
PLEASE READ my question before responding…I know three paragraphs is a lot for some people to read, but I went into detail because people often misinterpret my questions as an attempt to fish for compliments about my appearance.
I’m 6’3″, around 235, broad shouldered, and bald. I’m not happy being this way, but there isn’t that much I can do, really. Obviously, I can’t change my height and even extreme weight loss (I had initially planned on losing 100 lbs in a desperate effort to reduce my chest and shoulders) isn’t going to change my basic structure. I spent thousands of dollars on hair transplants several years ago and while I still have them, they gave me some thinning hair in front with a bald spot in back. I don’t particularly like having to shave my head bald, regardless of the trendiness of it (guys like Vin Diesel and Michael Chiklis strike me as big oafish types, not anyone I’d ever want to emulate), but it’s really my only viable option.
Due to my height, size, and probably my baldness, I tend to be pegged as a protector by females (a label I hate because the idea of a female needing to feel small and secure turns me off) and as some football player type by guys (mostly by panhandlers who figure that it’ll play up to my vanity). I don’t mean to imply that I get a lot of compliments or attention, but if I do, the above remarks are generally what I hear.
I know there’s only so much I can do, really. I’ve tried looking around at other guys with similar stature and lack of hair, but I’m at a loss since most of the ones I see are older men (Sean Connery, Patrick Stewart), oafish action-hero types (Diesel, Chiklis), or bulletheaded authority figures (Steve Wilkos, who I have been mistaken for once or twice)….not really the sort of people I want to be associated with. Still, I know all I can do is work with what I have, but I want to know if people have an opinion as to what I can do to stay away from this stereotype I’ve been subjected to.
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May 5th, 2010 at 9:26 pm
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Don’t worry about it, learn to be comfortable with who you are. I think you’re looking into it too much.
May 7th, 2010 at 1:48 am
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I don’t know how old you are but I will say this; the older I’ve gotten the less I care about what people think of me – especially from an aesthetic point of view. Let go of the labels. Let go of the superficiality. Just be YOU. Let your personality show through. Trust me, it’s a very liberating feeling.